Dear muzmatch: How to choose between 2 guys

muzmatch
19 May

For the past few months you have been receiving advice from our amazing agony aunties, but we have decided to switch things up and let our wonderful success couples answer some of your questions! For the next few weeks we have muzmatch success couple Ellia and Youssef answering all of your burning questions.

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Dear muzmatch,
What do you do when you're talking to 2 very interesting/compatible people?
-Anon

Ellia says:

I have spoken to many people who have been in the same situation. The advice I give them is one of two.

Number one - listen to your gut – it knows what it’s doing! In a situation like this, there will most certainly (not always) be one person which you will be a little more fond of for whatever reason. In this case, you have to go with your gut and chose the person who has that little edge – there must be a reason why, right?

Second bit of advice is, if your gut isn’t speaking to you then you need to become more strategic and treat them like candidates. You have to start filtering out between them. When you have two compatible suitors that you can talk to easily and get along with well, you have to start weighing up the pro’s and con’s of each person – dig deep and see if they’re really a good match for you.

Like always, talk to Allah about it too, ask Allah for guidance. You don’t want to spend your time trying to progress things with two people at the same time, you will end up mentally and emotionally drained which may lead you to make irrational decisions, resulting in no potential spouse at all.


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