From Sources You Could Never Imagine

There are some wonderful lessons that we can draw from this single verse in in the Qur’an – Surah Talaq, ayah 3 – relating to Tawakkal (trust in Allah) and Rida (contentment):

“And He (Allah) will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allah has set a measure for all things.”

Key Lessons:

1.

Let’s begin with the first sentence in this verse.  When we are faced with a difficult situation, and when things seem completely out of our control, we are reminded that nothing is outside of Allah’s control. Especially when there seems to be no way out of a particular situation, when in fact we cannot even conceive of a solution, this is when Allah gives us even greater help – in fact help that comes outside the realms of human capability and understanding. We often will lose hope in something because our rational minds are doing the thinking – (maybe it’s an essay deadline, maybe we are trying to arrive somewhere on time and we have got delayed, maybe someone is unwell, maybe a community is being oppressed, or maybe we cannot find a spouse/ any other rizq).

But here Allah is telling us that His help goes beyond human imagination; if we only ask Allah based on what we think is possible, then we will miss out on the other worldly, miraculous nature of Allah’s help. Prophet Musa (as) understood this when he was trapped between the Red Sea and the army of Fir’awn; Maryam (as) understood this as she bravely returned to her people with baby Isa (as) in her arms; and so too did Zakariya (as) when he prayed for a child, though he and his wife were in their old age – they were not just pious people, they were smart and open-minded too. The more someone’s mind is open to the Power of Allah, the higher he/she will aim, and the more he/she will achieve, in this life and the next, insha’Allah.

2.

If we look at the second sentence in the verse, Allah tells us about another reward that comes with trusting in Him, and that is the reward of contentment and peace. This is the meaning of ‘and Allah is sufficient for him’. When something is sufficient, it means you are satisfied, you do not need or seek anything else. It means you are at ease with whatever Allah has willed for you and given to you, and recognise there is good even in things that appear to be negative. It also means you do not depend on other people – this demonstrates that complete tawakkul is also the thing that gives a human being emancipation and dignity. Dignity is when you are not humiliated by base desires and subjugation – tawakkul means, therefore, that we are freeing ourselves of the need for the help or approval of the creation.

3.

The last two sentences, where Allah tells us He will ‘accomplish His purpose’ and has a ‘measure for all things’, is a reminder that our provision is already written. All our provisions were already written for us 50,000 years before we were born. Our successes and so-called failures in this dunya are decreed – but the real success is in fact being able to pass the test – either by showing gratitude for the ‘successes’ or showing sabr and contentment when the ‘failures’ occur. There may be something we are trying to accomplish, but ultimately it can never succeed if Allah did not will it. Allah has a purpose that supersedes all our plans. So when we have tried with something and it still does not work, then we must realise that Allah is in control, not us; and rather than feeling disappointed by that, we should try to understand that everything Allah decrees for us has wisdom in it. Whatever you are facing in life, it is in fact a fulfilment of a plan – ‘the accomplishment of a purpose‘ –  specially designed and tailored for each and every individual.

“…and it may be that you dislike a thing while it is good for you, and it may be that you love a thing while it is evil for you; and Allah knows while you know not.” (2:216)

The lesson from the test is often more valuable and a greater achievement than the original thing we were seeking. The meaning of this verse should also act as a reassurance that when others are working against those who do good, against the deen, and against the truth, then they ultimately will fail even if we cannot perceive this: for Allah has only given them respite for a short time before He destroys their plans. This was often the case with evil communities in the past – Allah gave them some short-term, superficial successes which made them feel arrogant for a while, but in the end their plans and their plots failed. We see this in the examples of ‘Ad, Thamud, the People of the Ditch and the Pharaoh – amazing stories in the Qur’an that we should study and seek to draw lessons from.

So, the final conclusion is that we need to re-programme our way of thinking, to not limit Allah’s Power and Aid to what we think is rationally possible – know that we humans have a bounded rationality that cannot perceive the endless capacity of Allah’s Will. And we should reconfigure our minds to truly recognise that Allah can command and facilitate anything for us. Also, we need to remind ourselves that worrying and fretting about things that Allah has already decreed and measured out (perfectly!) for us, is a pointless exercise – we should just get on with what is in our hands, do what we can in the circumstances we are currently in, and keep making dua for the best (yes, the very best, why not?) from Allah, the Most High.

Practical tips to achieve the above:

  • Make yourself make du’a for that which seems impossible.
  • Keep trying with whatever practical means are available, even if – no, especially if – you think the doors have already closed. Allah swt is al-Fattah, the Opener.
  • Listen to Qur’an, and especially be familiar with its stories of the Prophets and the Saliheen (the righteous), peace be upon them – their actions and deep conviction will help to challenge our scepticism and will broaden our minds to appreciate the Power of Allah.
  • Be around those people who will give you hope and encouragement – those who help you to avoid regret, who give constructive advice, and who big up the positive side of things.
  • Look out for, and memorise special verses in the Qur’an/ supplications from the Sunnah, that will increase our tawakkul.
  • And finally, what can we do when things are still going (apparently) badly, when our trust and efforts don’t seem to be leading to the outcome we hoped for? In that case, pause, reflect and purposefully ask ourselves – “what is Allah teaching me through this? What negative habit/ quality is he wanting me to let go of? what material things do I still need to detach myself from? What positive outcomes are there that I am overlooking? Are the consequences of this negative situation really that awful that I should be getting this wound up about it? Could it be that this negative outcome is just one small, short-term phase on the way to an overall victory in the long-term?”

When Allah tests us, He is simply teaching us. And He will keep giving us those mock exams, before the Big Exam, until we learn. And if you do learn, and you get what the lesson is about, then congratulations – that’s a very precious blessing, and is possibly the real success you’re after! Alhamdulillah.

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My name is Halima and I'm from Gauteng, South Africa and my husband (Arshad) is from Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa; we are both South African Indians.

He liked my profile on muzmatch on the 8th of April 2018 and on the 9th we started chatting and Alhamdulillah, today we are husband and wife.

We did our Nikah last month (March 9th 2019).

About a month before I joined muzmatch I remember speaking to my mother in the kitchen as we cooked supper and she had full confidence that I'd be getting married soon.

I told her that I felt that maybe I'm just not meant to get married and be happy, taking into consideration that I personally felt like one could never find a decent man whose intention is to make Nikah in this day and age.

My Moulana had recommended that I join Nikah/Muslim match-making groups and muzmatch populated amongst my searches, so I downloaded the app and registered. After a while I had lost hope so I deleted the app from my phone but did not deactivate my profile.

It was a Monday morning, I had woken up to get ready for work,

I checked my phone and I had an email notification from muzmatch which read "Arshad likes you".

I was quite surprised; I looked at his profile and his biography was quite captivating but it seemed so surreal - this was too good to be true.

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I used the link in his bio to view his Facebook profile, we had a mutual friend which was my cousin that also resides in Kwa-Zulu Natal, so I felt a bit more assured that this is definitely real considering that I had started to think that this could potentially be a catfish.

We started chatting that very morning and there was an instant click. It felt like we were long lost friends because of how well we understood each other and could complete each others sentences. We had the same interests and the same intention; we could speak for hours on end without running out of things to say.

We had realized that we are most definitely soulmates.

Within 2 weeks he called my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. In July 2018 (21st), I booked a flight to visit him and his mum for the day and after spending time together we knew that this was the right decision and that Allah SWT had created us for each other.

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We then saw each other once again in August 2018 (25th - A surprise for my 21st birthday planned by him and my mum); and again in November 2018 when he flew up to attend my younger sister's wedding with his mum, younger sister and brother-in-law.

Slowly the long distance had become difficult, our younger sisters were both already married and settled and we started wondering when would we actually get married. In February this year he decided to relocate to Gauteng and found a temporary job.

His dad visited my parents and they decided to set a Nikah date, Alhamdulillah once the date was set everything fell into place by the will of Allah. He found a job as a PC Engineering lecturer and we were able to find our own place with our parents help and support.

Today I am happily married, living my dream with my husband and I have wonderful in-laws that love me as much as they love Arshad.

The most important quality I wanted in a husband was someone that could take my family as his own and Alhamdulillah I found that in Arshad.

We are now a huge happy family Alhamdulillah.

Jazak'Allah muzmatch! Arshad has found me due to the creation of this wonderful app (He always says that he found me, not the other way around).

I would advise everyone to put their trust and faith in Allah SWT, never give up hope that Allah SWT will send the one who is meant for you when the time is right - for Allah is the greatest of planners. May all the other individuals find their spouses through this app as well Insha'Allah.

Halima & Arshad

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My name is Yasmeen and I found my husband, Taymoor, on muzmatch on the last day of last ramadan. We were both divorced.

The first time we talked on muzmatch was in June and we got married one month later in August 2018. I always wanted to send our story to inspire others who are searching for a good husband and wife.  

We are both Egyptians, from Cairo, we even work & live very near to each others in New Cairo city. I am a digital marketing manager and Taymoor is an IT manager. I am 37 years old and he is 40.  

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I have a daughter who is 12 years old, and I was searching for a real Muslim man who would be a good husband and father. Finally I found Taymoor, who is a good man and a good Muslim, he is very kind.

I am telling my friends that I found someone who really looks like me from the inside.  He was divorced and also has a kid, who is 5 years old. When we first chatted on muzmatch we spoke for over 6 hours, he was surprised much we got on, he even thought that this was a prank!

I couldn't believe that I finally found the man I was looking for. The first time we met, was after Eid al futr, in the House of Cocoa, as Taymoor knew that I loved chocolate. We talked about ourselves for over six hours, I did not want to leave and neither did he.

After we met I told my family and friends, and he did too. He and his family visited us and we got married in only two months, I never imagined that I would find my soulmate and marry him that fast.

I always wanted to find a man to trust and love, after being a single mom for years, I found out that my dream man was hard to find, but alhamdullah I found him on your app.  

Alhamdullah, we are very happy together, my daughter lives with us and his son visits us on the weekends. You cannot imagine how much I am now recommending muzmatch to all my friends.

It didn't even take me long to find my husband. I used the app for almost one month or less.

I am so happy alhamdullah now that I married a real muslim I always wanted.  

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My name is Sara and I just wanted to thank muzmatch and let you know that I finally got engaged on 24th December 2018 and found my Fiance - Ghazunfar on the App.  

We are really happy Alhamdulilah and just wanted to thank you for creating a platform for Muslims to find a suitable match for marriage!    

I believe it's a real blessing because initially we matched but we didn't talk as he hadn't read my messages and was not appearing online. After around 4 weeks, I unmatched however after some weeks I logged in and I came across his profile again. After some giving it some thought I decided to rematch and give it a try again.

The next day he replied to me and the is history.  Its been a almost a year since we matched on Muzmatch and we have set the Nikkah date which will be 1st March 2019 in Rawalpindi, Pakistan.  

Our families are very happy and we are looking forward to entering into the blessed union of marriage Insha'Allah. We just wanted to say keep up the good work, may Allah bless you and request that you keep us in prayers.  

One last thing to everyone using the  muzmatch App - please do not give up, there is someone out there for us all!  

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