I Met a Girl on Instagram....7 Months Later We Got Married

Throughout 2013, from time to time, I prayed that God would find me a companion whom I could spend the rest of my life with. Being in my early 20s, and in the ‘peak’ of my adulthood, or so it’s claimed – I had completed my education, was working full time, regularly playing football and attending the gym – but there was, nevertheless, a void in my life that no amount of fun, family, work or (being a believer) worship, could fulfil. I needed someone to share my (weird, confusing and often perplexing) thoughts with, someone to sit with me while I watched philosophical and religious talks on Youtube, someone to accompany me on those lonely journeys back home late at night, someone to hold my hand through life’s struggles and tell me that everything will be alright, someone who would journey with me to the next world and someone I could reciprocate that all with, not out of gratitude, but out of the natural desire a husband has to give and care for his wife.

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In fact, that sense of loneliness – perhaps exacerbated because I had no father or siblings – was sometimes quite overwhelming. Before I got married, it seemed as if everyone around me was depressed, the world seemed insane and God often felt distant. The prayer I would make – and this is quite personal and may sound weird – was: “Oh Allah. Please hasten the arrival of my wife and make her beautiful inwardly and outwardly.”

While many modern people may scoff at the idea of praying to God, my sincere prayers almost always seem to be answered. And God certainly didn’t let me down this time.

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Wherever my wife was, I knew she wasn’t far.

It was October 2013 and, for some reason, something inside me pulled me to start talking to this girl on Twitter that I had been following for a couple of months. We had first been following each other on Instagram since the beginning of the year – neither of us remember who followed each other first or how we ended up on each other’s Instagrams for that matter – but I had added her on Twitter, as there was something that interested me about her. After a couple of brief exchanges @’ing each other, I decided – again, I’m not sure what compelled me – to ‘direct message’ her. We exchanged a few conversations but, on November 11th, I decided to make a bold move. I asked her whether she would “like to get to know me better.”

I was relieved when she replied in the affirmative and gave me her number. We began texting, made a few phone calls, met up in public places and, one evening I realized something: I actually like her, a lot. And I didn’t think I’d be way off in presuming she liked me, too.

That night, I rehearsed in my head what I’d say to her on the phone and, without too much thought, called her. After the pleasantries, I asked her: “So what do you want to do?” “What do you mean?” she replied. “You know what I mean. Where do you want to go now? I have feelings for you. Do you have feelings for me?” “Yes,” she replied. “Then, there’s only one thing to do. Tell your dad.”

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Tell her dad she did, albeit after one month of prepping herself. I met her dad, it went smoothly and the rest, you could say, is history. We began talking in November and by June 2014, we were married. Job done. The prayer was answered.

But there was something slightly mysterious about it all. The first and perhaps weirdest thing was that my wife and I were always within reaching distance. My secondary school and her secondary school were literally down the road from each other. But here’s the really strange part: I knew most of her closest friends at school, and she knew most of my closest friends at school. Yet, we didn’t know each other nor did we ever cross paths. God didn’t want us to meet just yet.

What’s more, out of anywhere in the UK my wife could have lived, she was a 10 minute drive from my home.

Once we got married, my wife told me that, although she didn’t know how I ended up on her Instagram, every time I uploaded a picture that appeared on her timeline, she would stop in her tracks and think to herself “there’s something about this guy, I have a strange feeling about him.”She even told one or two of her friends that there’s “just something about him” – and this was before we had ever exchanged any messages. I, too, was drawn to her profile, on at least three occasions I clicked on her Instagram, unsure of why I was doing it.

Reflecting back, that “would you like to get to know me better” Twitter message, came from the recesses of my being, not a place of random, impulsive spontaneity. My wife’s reply, so she tells me, was something she did pretty much without any thought. “I’m not sure why I gave you my number,” she’s told me on a few occasions, “but, at that moment, it just felt like the right thing to do.”

So how do you know if the person you’ve met is the one for you, especially if you’ve met them online and haven’t known them long? The simple answer is – you don’t. You may have a feeling deep down that there’s something special about them, but this could just be a fleeting emotion. The best judge is to see if they possess – or seem to possess – the highest virtuous characteristics in religion: an aspiration to journey to God, sincerity, loving-caring gentleness and honesty. These things might not be obvious straight away, but if you have a strong instinct, then listen to it. Also, Muslims shouldn’t forget Istikhara.

Meeting your wife on Instagram might seem like a strange way to meet your spouse. But it isn’t. God brings people together in so many different ways, and none is necessarily better than the other. I’ve recently come across other Muslims who’ve met their spouse on social media and it seems to be a growing trend. With all its downfalls, social media certainly has it’s positives, meeting my wife on there is definitely a positive in my experience.

The route my wife and I took while getting to know each other may also seem strange to some people. We maintained what is known in Islamic lexicon as ‘good adab’. In other words, from the first time we spoke, right up until we got married, we were vigilant about what we said to each other, careful not to use inappropriate or charged language. In the seven month lead up to getting married, we never touched once and we were never in a room alone. This, we believe, increased the spiritual blessings in our relationship. But, above all else, we are sure that we were always part of the same web, which, through the years, was slowly unfolding, until, finally, we came together.

I pray that this piece gives other young Muslims the courage to pursue what they believe to be the right thing to do and not be shackled by cultural norms.

Source: http://omarshahid.co.uk/2015/01/06/i-met-a-girl-on-instagram-7-months-later-we-got-married/

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My name is Halima and I'm from Gauteng, South Africa and my husband (Arshad) is from Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa; we are both South African Indians.

He liked my profile on muzmatch on the 8th of April 2018 and on the 9th we started chatting and Alhamdulillah, today we are husband and wife.

We did our Nikah last month (March 9th 2019).

About a month before I joined muzmatch I remember speaking to my mother in the kitchen as we cooked supper and she had full confidence that I'd be getting married soon.

I told her that I felt that maybe I'm just not meant to get married and be happy, taking into consideration that I personally felt like one could never find a decent man whose intention is to make Nikah in this day and age.

My Moulana had recommended that I join Nikah/Muslim match-making groups and muzmatch populated amongst my searches, so I downloaded the app and registered. After a while I had lost hope so I deleted the app from my phone but did not deactivate my profile.

It was a Monday morning, I had woken up to get ready for work,

I checked my phone and I had an email notification from muzmatch which read "Arshad likes you".

I was quite surprised; I looked at his profile and his biography was quite captivating but it seemed so surreal - this was too good to be true.

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I used the link in his bio to view his Facebook profile, we had a mutual friend which was my cousin that also resides in Kwa-Zulu Natal, so I felt a bit more assured that this is definitely real considering that I had started to think that this could potentially be a catfish.

We started chatting that very morning and there was an instant click. It felt like we were long lost friends because of how well we understood each other and could complete each others sentences. We had the same interests and the same intention; we could speak for hours on end without running out of things to say.

We had realized that we are most definitely soulmates.

Within 2 weeks he called my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. In July 2018 (21st), I booked a flight to visit him and his mum for the day and after spending time together we knew that this was the right decision and that Allah SWT had created us for each other.

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We then saw each other once again in August 2018 (25th - A surprise for my 21st birthday planned by him and my mum); and again in November 2018 when he flew up to attend my younger sister's wedding with his mum, younger sister and brother-in-law.

Slowly the long distance had become difficult, our younger sisters were both already married and settled and we started wondering when would we actually get married. In February this year he decided to relocate to Gauteng and found a temporary job.

His dad visited my parents and they decided to set a Nikah date, Alhamdulillah once the date was set everything fell into place by the will of Allah. He found a job as a PC Engineering lecturer and we were able to find our own place with our parents help and support.

Today I am happily married, living my dream with my husband and I have wonderful in-laws that love me as much as they love Arshad.

The most important quality I wanted in a husband was someone that could take my family as his own and Alhamdulillah I found that in Arshad.

We are now a huge happy family Alhamdulillah.

Jazak'Allah muzmatch! Arshad has found me due to the creation of this wonderful app (He always says that he found me, not the other way around).

I would advise everyone to put their trust and faith in Allah SWT, never give up hope that Allah SWT will send the one who is meant for you when the time is right - for Allah is the greatest of planners. May all the other individuals find their spouses through this app as well Insha'Allah.

Halima & Arshad

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My name is Yasmeen and I found my husband, Taymoor, on muzmatch on the last day of last ramadan. We were both divorced.

The first time we talked on muzmatch was in June and we got married one month later in August 2018. I always wanted to send our story to inspire others who are searching for a good husband and wife.  

We are both Egyptians, from Cairo, we even work & live very near to each others in New Cairo city. I am a digital marketing manager and Taymoor is an IT manager. I am 37 years old and he is 40.  

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I have a daughter who is 12 years old, and I was searching for a real Muslim man who would be a good husband and father. Finally I found Taymoor, who is a good man and a good Muslim, he is very kind.

I am telling my friends that I found someone who really looks like me from the inside.  He was divorced and also has a kid, who is 5 years old. When we first chatted on muzmatch we spoke for over 6 hours, he was surprised much we got on, he even thought that this was a prank!

I couldn't believe that I finally found the man I was looking for. The first time we met, was after Eid al futr, in the House of Cocoa, as Taymoor knew that I loved chocolate. We talked about ourselves for over six hours, I did not want to leave and neither did he.

After we met I told my family and friends, and he did too. He and his family visited us and we got married in only two months, I never imagined that I would find my soulmate and marry him that fast.

I always wanted to find a man to trust and love, after being a single mom for years, I found out that my dream man was hard to find, but alhamdullah I found him on your app.  

Alhamdullah, we are very happy together, my daughter lives with us and his son visits us on the weekends. You cannot imagine how much I am now recommending muzmatch to all my friends.

It didn't even take me long to find my husband. I used the app for almost one month or less.

I am so happy alhamdullah now that I married a real muslim I always wanted.  

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My name is Sara and I just wanted to thank muzmatch and let you know that I finally got engaged on 24th December 2018 and found my Fiance - Ghazunfar on the App.  

We are really happy Alhamdulilah and just wanted to thank you for creating a platform for Muslims to find a suitable match for marriage!    

I believe it's a real blessing because initially we matched but we didn't talk as he hadn't read my messages and was not appearing online. After around 4 weeks, I unmatched however after some weeks I logged in and I came across his profile again. After some giving it some thought I decided to rematch and give it a try again.

The next day he replied to me and the is history.  Its been a almost a year since we matched on Muzmatch and we have set the Nikkah date which will be 1st March 2019 in Rawalpindi, Pakistan.  

Our families are very happy and we are looking forward to entering into the blessed union of marriage Insha'Allah. We just wanted to say keep up the good work, may Allah bless you and request that you keep us in prayers.  

One last thing to everyone using the  muzmatch App - please do not give up, there is someone out there for us all!  

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