But first, let me share some results that my clients experienced by using these tips.
Hanna my client was struggling with finding, connecting and keeping the right partner for her. She signed up to work with me one to one.
When she called, me she said “Wajeeha, I really don’t think there is anyone out there for me”. She was at a stage in life where she was questioning Love and life.
She felt she was being bullied at work and to top it off she found out the guy she thought was “The One” said he was not ready for marriage, even though he had been introduced through family.
Now transformation does not come over night and after a few months of Hanna working with me she left her job and after a short break landed a job that she was really excited about. She also met someone at a networking event.
I am not saying there are going to be wedding bells anytime soon….but she is loving the transformation in her life.
What makes working with me so unique is that it’s an inside-out process. Hanna owned her power as a lovable, deserving and smart woman. She’s raised her standards and attracted more opportunities in all areas in her life and in love.
When Imran came to me he had lost hope in ever finding someone compatible.
He was frustrated and angry with the whole process and when we dug a little dipper there were some patterns he was repeating in all areas of his life.
I worked with him through the inside out process and fifteen month’s later there were indeed wedding bells.
So today I wanted to share some of my favourite tips that got Hanna and Imran the result they were looking for.
Try them and who knows…
A little bit of research goes a long way, look for events that are going on in your local area and maybe further afield. Take the opportunity to connect with people, don’t shy away from chatting with people as you go about your day.
When you get the opportunity to connect, even if you aren’t attracted to the person you meet at the networking event, you never know who he or she knows.
I said to Hanna next time your at a networking event, play host.
Imagine your the host of the event and you have to go round the room and make sure everyone is having fun. Your job is also to find people who you could introduce to each other. That way you shift your focus from you to other’s in the room.
In fact, that’s what Hanna did she went to a networking event got speaking to someone, turned out he was married, but he introduced her to his single friend.
Start with making your imagination your friend. It’s the best and most powerful tool you have.
Imagine meeting one of your best friends for coffee. Think about how accepted and warm you feel, how comfortable, how real, and how relaxed you are. Now imagine being that connected to a date or friend who is the latest addition to your network.
A great fantasy, right? You can use the same technique when you are meeting a new date, or for that matter, anyone. Simply program yourself to be an old friend or relative who is entirely comfortable with this person.
So try this little experiment: before you meet someone, just imagine that you have known them for ages. They have been away for a while and you are really excited to catch up with them and find out what they have been up to. You will be more relaxed and this attitude, in turn, will put the person you’re with at ease as well.
Try it, it works when it comes to networking, first dates, meeting new friends or any new encounter.
It worked for Sandra my client, she started a new job in Brazil whilst she was at a local coffee shop she got speaking to someone, she imagined that he was someone she knew in London. It was interesting for her because not only did she have to contend with connecting with new people she was also in a new country.
Just because she gave it a go Sandra and Tom are now best friends and they are now planning their wedding.
The most frequently asked question you will be asked is, “What do you do?” The first thing you usually say is “I’m a doctor,” or “I’m a lawyer.”
Generally, no one cares what you do. What you need to convey is how you can help them in ten seconds or less.
You want the person to be so intrigued that he/she must get to know you. We practice this in the Finding Mr or Mrs Right Masterclass and people have walked away with some powerful intros.
For example, Amira an accountant discovered this intro at the Masterclass, “I help change people’s relationship to money.”
Sayeed a Scientist said, “You will never guess, I don’t think there will be anyone else in the room that does what I do.”
Bushra a dentist said “I help people take care of the most neglected part of their body”
Your own unique intro will lead to a much richer opening conversation. Make it a part of any introduction and on muzmatch. Remember, you want to leave someone you meet wanting to know more about you.
Get out of your head, stop wondering what they think of you and start wondering about them.
Focus on the person in front of you. Remember everyone you meet knows something you do not know. Your mission is to find out what they know.
Create a positive memorable impression and a strong connection by completely focusing on the other person.
Ask questions and allow yourself to discover the special qualities of the person standing in front of you. We cover how to master focusing and asking questions in the Masterclass. Next time you’re using muzmatch or even at a networking event try out these tips. You will be glad you did.
Let me know how you’re getting on. I would love to hear from you.
Wajeeha Amin is a Relationship Coach and is on a mission to equip people with the tools that strengthen love and care in all their relationships. She pioneered the Finding Mr or Mrs Right Masterclass and has been supporting countless singles to go on to marry and Marry well. She was a finalist for Asian Women of Achievement award for her work and is an Ambassador for Women onthe future.
Visit Wajiha’s website: http://www.masterclassbywajeehaamin.com/
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Hey everyone, it’s Ayesha from My Big Fat Halal Blog (MBFHB)! MBFHB is one of the UK’s biggest halal food platforms where I share halal restaurant reviews, recipes and travel guides! You can find out more about what I do on my website or Instagram.
Today, I’m collaborating with muzmatch to share some of my top Ramadan recipes. We hope you try them out and we would love to see any of your recreations.
Here’s a simple recipe for this delicious, filling smoothie bowl packed with nutritious dates… the only dates you should be having this Ramadan! ;)
1 banana, plus extra slices to garnish
5 pitted medjool dates, plus extra, chopped, to garnish
250ml semi-skimmed milk
2 tsp cocoa powder
1⁄2 tsp ground cinnamon
1 tbsp ground nuts, to decorate
Simply put all the ingredients in a blender, and whizz until smooth. Pour into a bowl, over ice, if you like, then arrange the nuts, extra banana and dates over the top to serve.
Let’s be honest, it wouldn’t be Ramadan without fried treats! Below is a recipe for my spicy, moreish potato cutlets. They’re always a hit with everyone!
750g Maris Piper potatoes, peeled and cut into large chunks
11⁄2 tbsp garam masala
2 tsp chilli powder
1 tbsp ground coriander
Handful of coriander, roughly chopped
2 tbsp plain flour
1 egg, lightly beaten
3 tbsp vegetable oil
Chutney/spicy salsa, to serve
1.Put the potatoes in a large pan and cover with water. Bring to the boil, then cook for 18-20 mins, until tender. Drain and set aside for 15-20 mins, until cool enough to handle.
2. Add the garam masala, chilli powder, ground coriander and fresh coriander to the potatoes. Season, then mash until smooth.
3. Wet your hands, then shape the mixture into 10 round patties, about 1cm thick.
4. Put the flour, egg and breadcrumbs onto separate plates, then dip each patty first in the flour, then the egg, then the breadcrumbs to coat.
5. Heat the oil to medium-high, then fry the patties in batches for 2-3 mins on each side, until golden brown. Drain on kitchen paper, then serve with a chutney/ spicy salsa for dipping.
A feast would not be complete without dessert! Try out this delicious Egyptian bread pudding known as Um Ali. It’s made with croissants, nuts and condensed milk and it’s absolutely delicious!
850ml semi-skimmed milk
1⁄2 x 397g can condensed milk
1⁄2 tsp ground cardamom
1⁄4 tsp ground cinnamon, plus extra to serve
1 tsp vanilla extract
100ml double cream
1 tsp unsalted butter
4 all butter croissants, roughly torn
2 tbsp desiccated coconut
2 tbsp flaked almonds
2 tbsp unsalted pistachios, chopped
2 tbsp seedless raisins
1. Preheat the oven to 180°C/fan 160°C/Gas 4.
2. Stir the milk, condensed milk, cardamom, cinnamon and vanilla extract together in a saucepan. Slowly bring to the boil and simmer gently for 2mins, stirring occasionally. Add the cream and carefully bring back to the boil, then remove from the heat.
3. Using the butter, grease a round baking dish, roughly 22cm in diameter and 5cm deep, and cover the base with half the croissant pieces.
4. Sprinkle over half each of the coconut, almonds, pistachios and raisins, then pour over the milk mixture.
5. Top with the remaining croissants, nuts and raisins, plus an extra pinch of cinnamon.
6. Bake in the oven for 20-25mins until golden and bubbling, then leave to stand for 10 mins before serving.
I hope you enjoy these recipes and will try them out! You can find more of my recipes at mybigfathalalblog.com.
My husband and I got married last week! I wanted to share our story with you. Jarred and I started talking earlier this year and had an instant connection.
Jarred is from Connecticut and I'm from Texas. He was in Arkansas for school and recently graduated and was interested in meeting someone so he downloaded muzmatch.
We started talking and realized how much we had in common and quickly became serious about each other. We complimented each another in so many ways: prioritizing our deen, family and wanting to make a positive difference in the world.
Jarred then drove to see me. After that, we were certain we wanted to get married and decided to have our nikkah before Ramadan. We've been married almost a month now and it's been a wonderful adventure!
We're so happy! Jazakallah khair for connecting us!
Alhamdulillah, thank you Allah and the muzmatch team!
I'm from Indonesia and my husband is from Germany, but he is Russian.
What a blessing it is to have a mixed raced marriage!
I knew my husband from muzmatch since May 2017 and then he visited Indonesia in November 2017. I didn't believe he was serious until he visited me and my family.
Months later, I flew to Germany and found work there because I wanted to be close to him.
I was in love.
Finally on 28 Dec 2018, we had our nikkah which fell on the last Jumu'ah of the month and in March 2019 we got officially married.
Thank you to the muzmatch team!