Du'aa, Need and Gratitude

We are always in need of something or other – this is the nature of human beings, of all of creation in fact. There is only One who is self-sufficient, and that is Allah, Al-Ghani.

Allah has placed within us an unceasing dependency, in order to maintain a constant connection between us and our Lord.

Allah loves to hear from His servants, and He loves to answer them, and so Allah makes us needy so that we can turn to Him regularly.

When we are at school or university, the need for good grades and success in our exams often dominates our du’ a. After university it may be jobs, family, marriage, finances and health that are at the forefront of people’s du’ a. Allah answers and provides, again and again. But our needs never seem to end – we will always find something new to ask for.

And there is nothing wrong with that, as long as we keep asking from Allah and don’t depend on others. Indeed, the Prophet (saw) taught us, ‘du’a is worship’ [Tirmidhi] and he encouraged us to ask Allah for anything, even a shoe-lace or salt, for nothing is unimportant or too small for du’a. In fact it is Allah who inspires us to ask because He wants good for us.

But in the midst of making du’a, it’s also important to stop and reflect on how much Allah has already given us. To reflect on just how merciful and generous Allah has been to us throughout our lives. Look back on your life and think about all the things you have, the many things you have accomplished… do you remember the time when you used to ask for those same things in your d’ua, with so much earnestness and need?

And then Allah gave them to you. Getting through school or your degree seemed like an impossible task, and yet you graduated alhamdulillah! Maybe you were sick one time and just wanted to get better, and Allah restored your health. Maybe you always wanted to visit a particular place, and Allah enabled you to travel there. Maybe there was a time when you didn’t have good company, and then Allah sent righteous friends to support you. Maybe you were in debt, and Allah gave you the means to pay it off. Maybe you wanted to be a stronger Muslim, and Allah gave you challenges to overcome that brought you nearer to Him. The list goes on.

Often people will focus on the du’as they think haven’t been answered yet, without considering all those du’as that have already been granted. Have we given enough thanks for them? Indeed, can we ever give enough thanks?

Prophet Zakariyya (as) set a beautiful example when he asked Allah for a righteous child. He was elderly, and he and his wife still didn’t have any children. He could have focused on that one fact – how many years, how many decades in fact, must he have prayed for a child, and yet Allah didn’t grant it for him yet… but instead, look at what he says in his du’a:

“When he cried out to his Lord in private. He said, ‘My Lord! My bones have grown feeble and my head is glistening with age; yet, never have my prayers to You, my Lord, been unfruitful.’” Qur’an 19:4

SubhanAllah! Instead of questioning why his du’a hadn’t been answered, he celebrated the generosity of Allah and considered himself already blessed with abundance. This is the epitome of gratitude and humility; it shows a deep, loving relationship between a grateful servant and a generous Lord, where the servant has the best opinion of Allah and focuses on the positives.

We should aspire to do the same with our du’a – start off acknowledging the things you already have and the things that already give you happiness, before asking for the things (you think) you lack; thank Allah for those blessings in your life and ask Allah to preserve them.  Doing so will mean your supplications come from a mentality of gratitude and contentment, rather than a mentality of scarcity or deprivation. And you will see how this changes your outlook on life and even your relationship with Allah, in a beautiful way insha’Allah.

May we follow the example of Prophet Zakariyya (as), and may Allah make us among those who are grateful. Ameen.

Source of inspiration for this article: The Sunday Circle Blog

27 days ago

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South African Match! #muzmatchsuccess

My name is Halima and I'm from Gauteng, South Africa and my husband (Arshad) is from Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa; we are both South African Indians.

He liked my profile on muzmatch on the 8th of April 2018 and on the 9th we started chatting and Alhamdulillah, today we are husband and wife.

We did our Nikah last month (March 9th 2019).

About a month before I joined muzmatch I remember speaking to my mother in the kitchen as we cooked supper and she had full confidence that I'd be getting married soon.

I told her that I felt that maybe I'm just not meant to get married and be happy, taking into consideration that I personally felt like one could never find a decent man whose intention is to make Nikah in this day and age.

My Moulana had recommended that I join Nikah/Muslim match-making groups and muzmatch populated amongst my searches, so I downloaded the app and registered. After a while I had lost hope so I deleted the app from my phone but did not deactivate my profile.

It was a Monday morning, I had woken up to get ready for work,

I checked my phone and I had an email notification from muzmatch which read "Arshad likes you".

I was quite surprised; I looked at his profile and his biography was quite captivating but it seemed so surreal - this was too good to be true.

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I used the link in his bio to view his Facebook profile, we had a mutual friend which was my cousin that also resides in Kwa-Zulu Natal, so I felt a bit more assured that this is definitely real considering that I had started to think that this could potentially be a catfish.

We started chatting that very morning and there was an instant click. It felt like we were long lost friends because of how well we understood each other and could complete each others sentences. We had the same interests and the same intention; we could speak for hours on end without running out of things to say.

We had realized that we are most definitely soulmates.

Within 2 weeks he called my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. In July 2018 (21st), I booked a flight to visit him and his mum for the day and after spending time together we knew that this was the right decision and that Allah SWT had created us for each other.

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We then saw each other once again in August 2018 (25th - A surprise for my 21st birthday planned by him and my mum); and again in November 2018 when he flew up to attend my younger sister's wedding with his mum, younger sister and brother-in-law.

Slowly the long distance had become difficult, our younger sisters were both already married and settled and we started wondering when would we actually get married. In February this year he decided to relocate to Gauteng and found a temporary job.

His dad visited my parents and they decided to set a Nikah date, Alhamdulillah once the date was set everything fell into place by the will of Allah. He found a job as a PC Engineering lecturer and we were able to find our own place with our parents help and support.

Today I am happily married, living my dream with my husband and I have wonderful in-laws that love me as much as they love Arshad.

The most important quality I wanted in a husband was someone that could take my family as his own and Alhamdulillah I found that in Arshad.

We are now a huge happy family Alhamdulillah.

Jazak'Allah muzmatch! Arshad has found me due to the creation of this wonderful app (He always says that he found me, not the other way around).

I would advise everyone to put their trust and faith in Allah SWT, never give up hope that Allah SWT will send the one who is meant for you when the time is right - for Allah is the greatest of planners. May all the other individuals find their spouses through this app as well Insha'Allah.

Halima & Arshad

7 days ago

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My name is Yasmeen and I found my husband, Taymoor, on muzmatch on the last day of last ramadan. We were both divorced.

The first time we talked on muzmatch was in June and we got married one month later in August 2018. I always wanted to send our story to inspire others who are searching for a good husband and wife.  

We are both Egyptians, from Cairo, we even work & live very near to each others in New Cairo city. I am a digital marketing manager and Taymoor is an IT manager. I am 37 years old and he is 40.  

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I have a daughter who is 12 years old, and I was searching for a real Muslim man who would be a good husband and father. Finally I found Taymoor, who is a good man and a good Muslim, he is very kind.

I am telling my friends that I found someone who really looks like me from the inside.  He was divorced and also has a kid, who is 5 years old. When we first chatted on muzmatch we spoke for over 6 hours, he was surprised much we got on, he even thought that this was a prank!

I couldn't believe that I finally found the man I was looking for. The first time we met, was after Eid al futr, in the House of Cocoa, as Taymoor knew that I loved chocolate. We talked about ourselves for over six hours, I did not want to leave and neither did he.

After we met I told my family and friends, and he did too. He and his family visited us and we got married in only two months, I never imagined that I would find my soulmate and marry him that fast.

I always wanted to find a man to trust and love, after being a single mom for years, I found out that my dream man was hard to find, but alhamdullah I found him on your app.  

Alhamdullah, we are very happy together, my daughter lives with us and his son visits us on the weekends. You cannot imagine how much I am now recommending muzmatch to all my friends.

It didn't even take me long to find my husband. I used the app for almost one month or less.

I am so happy alhamdullah now that I married a real muslim I always wanted.  

8 days ago

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Close Call #muzmatchsuccess

My name is Sara and I just wanted to thank muzmatch and let you know that I finally got engaged on 24th December 2018 and found my Fiance - Ghazunfar on the App.  

We are really happy Alhamdulilah and just wanted to thank you for creating a platform for Muslims to find a suitable match for marriage!    

I believe it's a real blessing because initially we matched but we didn't talk as he hadn't read my messages and was not appearing online. After around 4 weeks, I unmatched however after some weeks I logged in and I came across his profile again. After some giving it some thought I decided to rematch and give it a try again.

The next day he replied to me and the is history.  Its been a almost a year since we matched on Muzmatch and we have set the Nikkah date which will be 1st March 2019 in Rawalpindi, Pakistan.  

Our families are very happy and we are looking forward to entering into the blessed union of marriage Insha'Allah. We just wanted to say keep up the good work, may Allah bless you and request that you keep us in prayers.  

One last thing to everyone using the  muzmatch App - please do not give up, there is someone out there for us all!  

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