Closed Doors

Have you ever been in a situation where something that you planned goes awry, and you end up with what seems like the exact opposite of what you sought?

Perhaps you were getting to know somebody, or pursuing a potential proposal – everything was in order, and you envisioned a life with this person, but it just didn’t work out.

Perhaps you spent weeks revising for that one exam – you had the ideal timetable, all your notes were in order and you were working hard every day… Only for the exam to be a disaster.

Perhaps you desperately wanted to work for a particular company: it was your dream job throughout your studies, and all your efforts were geared towards it – but when the time came you just kept facing rejections.

Perhaps years back you imagined you would achieve a list of milestones  – but now you’re here, things have not turned out as you expected.

At such times, four negative things can happen:

  1. You become so despondent that you stop aiming for your original goals altogether.
  2. You increasingly compare yourself to others who, in your perception, seem to be moving forward, gaining success, while you are not.
  3. You start to feel resentful, even angry, at what seems like an unfair situation.
  4. You forget about the blessings in your life and those things that have gone right for you.

If you ever find yourself feeling this way, remember the story of Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him. He was the son of Prophet Yaqub (as), the grandson of Prophet Is’haaq (as), and the great grandson of none other than the beloved friend of Allah, Prophet Ibrahim (as).

When Yusuf (as) was young, he saw a dream:

…Joseph said to his father, “O my father, indeed I have seen [in a dream] eleven stars and the sun and the moon; I saw them prostrating to me.” (Qur’an, 12:4)

So there were signs that this young boy was destined to be great – no doubt many people had very high expectations for Yusuf. So much so that his elder brothers became jealous of him.

And yet, for all of the beautiful signs, dreams and expectations – look at the events that occurred in his life. The ‘downward spiral’ all began when Yusuf’s brothers plotted against him, and threw him down a well.

Things did not get better from there – they only got worse and worse. Yusuf was then taken by some merchants and sold as a slave – this young boy, from one of the most illustrious families known to humanity, was brought down to the lowest, rock bottom, level of society. And if that was not painful enough, he then had to work and grow up in the house of the Aziz whose wife did everything she could to tempt him to commit zina. The gravest physical, financial, psychological and moral trials were heaped on this young man – for anyone who reads the story of Yusuf for the first time, who do not know what Allah (swt) had in store for Yusuf later on in his life – this must have seemed incredibly unfair, the young man had done nothing to deserve any of this.

The tests came to a head when Yusuf (as), who had guarded his honour so resolutely, was then accused by the wife of the Aziz, and rumours were being spread about him. The trials that took place in the household of the Aziz led Yusuf to make a desperate plea to Allah (swt), to take him out of there. But in fact, this house – which seemed like a disaster, was in fact saving Yusuf (as) from an even worse situation, and this tribulation was in fact the means through which Yusuf (as) would eventually gain his liberty.

Indeed, Yusuf (as) gained more than that – the test of being imprisoned allowed Yusuf to prove his innocence, it affirmed his dignity, it allowed him to then serve in one of the highest positions in the kingdom, through which he was able to help other people, and finally it paved the way for him to be reunited with his family. And the deep disease that existed within his family, that of envy, was also cured.

Allah (swt) is Al-Lateef, His plans are ingenious and subtle. It took a long time for Allah’s plan to become fully apparent, which required a lot of patience and trust from His prophet. But because of that patience, and because of that unwavering faith, the blessings and rewards bestowed upon Yusuf (as) were far greater than anything he or anyone else could have ever imagined.

If God has written something to be yours – it will be. The timing may be different to others. The journey may be different to others. But it will be yours.

Remember, Allah (swt) does not place a burden on any soul greater than they can bear – so when Allah (swt) tests you, it is because He has confidence in you; He knows you can pass the test, and wants to give you something much greater than the thing that you are seeking.

And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you, and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.” (Qur’an, 2: 216)

So keep trying, and keep nurturing your faith in the meantime. When doors are closed, know that Allah (swt) is al Fattah, The Opener, and the trials you face may in fact be a blessing in disguise. If you face blocks and detours, know that they are necessary parts of the journey, to get you to a higher level than you ever hoped for insha’Allah. If only we knew what His plans were for us, our hearts would melt from the warmth of His love.

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My name is Halima and I'm from Gauteng, South Africa and my husband (Arshad) is from Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa; we are both South African Indians.

He liked my profile on muzmatch on the 8th of April 2018 and on the 9th we started chatting and Alhamdulillah, today we are husband and wife.

We did our Nikah last month (March 9th 2019).

About a month before I joined muzmatch I remember speaking to my mother in the kitchen as we cooked supper and she had full confidence that I'd be getting married soon.

I told her that I felt that maybe I'm just not meant to get married and be happy, taking into consideration that I personally felt like one could never find a decent man whose intention is to make Nikah in this day and age.

My Moulana had recommended that I join Nikah/Muslim match-making groups and muzmatch populated amongst my searches, so I downloaded the app and registered. After a while I had lost hope so I deleted the app from my phone but did not deactivate my profile.

It was a Monday morning, I had woken up to get ready for work,

I checked my phone and I had an email notification from muzmatch which read "Arshad likes you".

I was quite surprised; I looked at his profile and his biography was quite captivating but it seemed so surreal - this was too good to be true.

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I used the link in his bio to view his Facebook profile, we had a mutual friend which was my cousin that also resides in Kwa-Zulu Natal, so I felt a bit more assured that this is definitely real considering that I had started to think that this could potentially be a catfish.

We started chatting that very morning and there was an instant click. It felt like we were long lost friends because of how well we understood each other and could complete each others sentences. We had the same interests and the same intention; we could speak for hours on end without running out of things to say.

We had realized that we are most definitely soulmates.

Within 2 weeks he called my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. In July 2018 (21st), I booked a flight to visit him and his mum for the day and after spending time together we knew that this was the right decision and that Allah SWT had created us for each other.

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We then saw each other once again in August 2018 (25th - A surprise for my 21st birthday planned by him and my mum); and again in November 2018 when he flew up to attend my younger sister's wedding with his mum, younger sister and brother-in-law.

Slowly the long distance had become difficult, our younger sisters were both already married and settled and we started wondering when would we actually get married. In February this year he decided to relocate to Gauteng and found a temporary job.

His dad visited my parents and they decided to set a Nikah date, Alhamdulillah once the date was set everything fell into place by the will of Allah. He found a job as a PC Engineering lecturer and we were able to find our own place with our parents help and support.

Today I am happily married, living my dream with my husband and I have wonderful in-laws that love me as much as they love Arshad.

The most important quality I wanted in a husband was someone that could take my family as his own and Alhamdulillah I found that in Arshad.

We are now a huge happy family Alhamdulillah.

Jazak'Allah muzmatch! Arshad has found me due to the creation of this wonderful app (He always says that he found me, not the other way around).

I would advise everyone to put their trust and faith in Allah SWT, never give up hope that Allah SWT will send the one who is meant for you when the time is right - for Allah is the greatest of planners. May all the other individuals find their spouses through this app as well Insha'Allah.

Halima & Arshad

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My name is Yasmeen and I found my husband, Taymoor, on muzmatch on the last day of last ramadan. We were both divorced.

The first time we talked on muzmatch was in June and we got married one month later in August 2018. I always wanted to send our story to inspire others who are searching for a good husband and wife.  

We are both Egyptians, from Cairo, we even work & live very near to each others in New Cairo city. I am a digital marketing manager and Taymoor is an IT manager. I am 37 years old and he is 40.  

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I have a daughter who is 12 years old, and I was searching for a real Muslim man who would be a good husband and father. Finally I found Taymoor, who is a good man and a good Muslim, he is very kind.

I am telling my friends that I found someone who really looks like me from the inside.  He was divorced and also has a kid, who is 5 years old. When we first chatted on muzmatch we spoke for over 6 hours, he was surprised much we got on, he even thought that this was a prank!

I couldn't believe that I finally found the man I was looking for. The first time we met, was after Eid al futr, in the House of Cocoa, as Taymoor knew that I loved chocolate. We talked about ourselves for over six hours, I did not want to leave and neither did he.

After we met I told my family and friends, and he did too. He and his family visited us and we got married in only two months, I never imagined that I would find my soulmate and marry him that fast.

I always wanted to find a man to trust and love, after being a single mom for years, I found out that my dream man was hard to find, but alhamdullah I found him on your app.  

Alhamdullah, we are very happy together, my daughter lives with us and his son visits us on the weekends. You cannot imagine how much I am now recommending muzmatch to all my friends.

It didn't even take me long to find my husband. I used the app for almost one month or less.

I am so happy alhamdullah now that I married a real muslim I always wanted.  

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My name is Sara and I just wanted to thank muzmatch and let you know that I finally got engaged on 24th December 2018 and found my Fiance - Ghazunfar on the App.  

We are really happy Alhamdulilah and just wanted to thank you for creating a platform for Muslims to find a suitable match for marriage!    

I believe it's a real blessing because initially we matched but we didn't talk as he hadn't read my messages and was not appearing online. After around 4 weeks, I unmatched however after some weeks I logged in and I came across his profile again. After some giving it some thought I decided to rematch and give it a try again.

The next day he replied to me and the is history.  Its been a almost a year since we matched on Muzmatch and we have set the Nikkah date which will be 1st March 2019 in Rawalpindi, Pakistan.  

Our families are very happy and we are looking forward to entering into the blessed union of marriage Insha'Allah. We just wanted to say keep up the good work, may Allah bless you and request that you keep us in prayers.  

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