Aishat's Diary


8th February 2017 I had just woken up to a text from a guy I’d been speaking to for 4 months, confirming my suspicions and told me we should not pursue any kind of relationship anymore. Instead, we should “proceed separately” (exact words)! Was I upset? Yes. Did I cry? Yes. I had spent the last 2 years making positive changes in my life, getting a better handle on my faith, making better choices. So how come I was back to the same place? Another man who couldn’t see my worth. Was I really not good enough?

22nd March 2017 I had decided I was going to take a break from the dating scene. Before I deleted muzmatch, I got a notification informing me I had matched with someone and they had sent me a message. I didn’t get my hopes up. I thought it was probably just another pointless conversation that would ensue. I was wrong. He was across the Atlantic which I thought would create some obvious obstacles but I felt different about this one. From that day, it was hours of video calls, keeping in constant contact throughout the day (time difference permitting). I had no doubt about his interest in pursuing a relationship with me because he gave me no reason to. That was something I’d never experienced before. I’d even spoken to his parents within the first few weeks on Skype. Not once had any man before ever wanted to introduce me to their parents, talk less of doing it this soon. There was still a little bit of doubt though. I mean, this was all online after all. However, he flew over to come and see me a few months after that. Any doubts I had previously felt, vanished as soon as I saw him.

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4th August 2017 We took our first trip together to Paris, a city neither of us had visited. It was a great trip. I left out the part where I got the biggest surprise when, on our second night during a dinner cruise, he got down on one knee and proposed to me.

I honestly cannot remember what he said, all I know is that I said yes and my knees literally went weak. I woke up the next morning in tears. Why? I have been so unlucky in love in the past and wondered why. I woke up that morning in tears because every failed relationship, every bad experience was worth it for this. This knowledge that all my prayers had been answered tenfold at a time when I was actually ready and mature enough to even think about starting a journey like this. I hadn’t found the perfect man, but I had found the perfect man for me. The best part about it? He loved me in ways that made me feel like I could do anything. That morning may have been the first time I’ve ever cried out of pure happiness! God’s timing is perfect.

22nd April 2018 Fast forward some months and we were lucky enough to have the most amazing wedding weekend with all our friends and family.It was incredible that so many of our loved ones travelled from 3 different parts of the world to celebrate with us.Planning a wedding is probably one of the more stressful things a couple can go through. Planning a wedding when both of you are in different continents, in 2 different time zones is another level. Or at least it felt like it. But it was worth it to have everyone show their love and support for us as we start this new chapter in our lives.

Now, I say all this just to illustrate how amazing life is. I truly believe that me growing stronger in my faith has led me here. None of this is my doing. Just thinking back through my journey of love and relationships, it’s amazing to see that everything I’ve wanted and prayed for that part of my life happened the way it did. In such a short space of time. That is definitely God’s handiwork.

There is an Ayah (Verse) in the Qur’an which states:

God will always relieve you of any hardship that you endure. With every hardship, comes twice the relief. If you keep strong in your faith, God will take care of everything else.

This rings true to me in all aspects of life, including what I have written about in this blog.

I am forever grateful.

14th February 2017 Going back a year, to February 2017… I went out for dinner with one of my closest friends, which cheered me up after what had just happened with this previous guy. I will never forget what she said to me:

This time next year you’ll be in such a different, better place that this won’t even matter. I guarantee it.

She was right.

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23 days ago

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South African Match! #muzmatchsuccess

My name is Halima and I'm from Gauteng, South Africa and my husband (Arshad) is from Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa; we are both South African Indians.

He liked my profile on muzmatch on the 8th of April 2018 and on the 9th we started chatting and Alhamdulillah, today we are husband and wife.

We did our Nikah last month (March 9th 2019).

About a month before I joined muzmatch I remember speaking to my mother in the kitchen as we cooked supper and she had full confidence that I'd be getting married soon.

I told her that I felt that maybe I'm just not meant to get married and be happy, taking into consideration that I personally felt like one could never find a decent man whose intention is to make Nikah in this day and age.

My Moulana had recommended that I join Nikah/Muslim match-making groups and muzmatch populated amongst my searches, so I downloaded the app and registered. After a while I had lost hope so I deleted the app from my phone but did not deactivate my profile.

It was a Monday morning, I had woken up to get ready for work,

I checked my phone and I had an email notification from muzmatch which read "Arshad likes you".

I was quite surprised; I looked at his profile and his biography was quite captivating but it seemed so surreal - this was too good to be true.

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I used the link in his bio to view his Facebook profile, we had a mutual friend which was my cousin that also resides in Kwa-Zulu Natal, so I felt a bit more assured that this is definitely real considering that I had started to think that this could potentially be a catfish.

We started chatting that very morning and there was an instant click. It felt like we were long lost friends because of how well we understood each other and could complete each others sentences. We had the same interests and the same intention; we could speak for hours on end without running out of things to say.

We had realized that we are most definitely soulmates.

Within 2 weeks he called my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. In July 2018 (21st), I booked a flight to visit him and his mum for the day and after spending time together we knew that this was the right decision and that Allah SWT had created us for each other.

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We then saw each other once again in August 2018 (25th - A surprise for my 21st birthday planned by him and my mum); and again in November 2018 when he flew up to attend my younger sister's wedding with his mum, younger sister and brother-in-law.

Slowly the long distance had become difficult, our younger sisters were both already married and settled and we started wondering when would we actually get married. In February this year he decided to relocate to Gauteng and found a temporary job.

His dad visited my parents and they decided to set a Nikah date, Alhamdulillah once the date was set everything fell into place by the will of Allah. He found a job as a PC Engineering lecturer and we were able to find our own place with our parents help and support.

Today I am happily married, living my dream with my husband and I have wonderful in-laws that love me as much as they love Arshad.

The most important quality I wanted in a husband was someone that could take my family as his own and Alhamdulillah I found that in Arshad.

We are now a huge happy family Alhamdulillah.

Jazak'Allah muzmatch! Arshad has found me due to the creation of this wonderful app (He always says that he found me, not the other way around).

I would advise everyone to put their trust and faith in Allah SWT, never give up hope that Allah SWT will send the one who is meant for you when the time is right - for Allah is the greatest of planners. May all the other individuals find their spouses through this app as well Insha'Allah.

Halima & Arshad

3 days ago

Egyptian Romance #muzmatchsuccess

My name is Yasmeen and I found my husband, Taymoor, on muzmatch on the last day of last ramadan. We were both divorced.

The first time we talked on muzmatch was in June and we got married one month later in August 2018. I always wanted to send our story to inspire others who are searching for a good husband and wife.  

We are both Egyptians, from Cairo, we even work & live very near to each others in New Cairo city. I am a digital marketing manager and Taymoor is an IT manager. I am 37 years old and he is 40.  

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I have a daughter who is 12 years old, and I was searching for a real Muslim man who would be a good husband and father. Finally I found Taymoor, who is a good man and a good Muslim, he is very kind.

I am telling my friends that I found someone who really looks like me from the inside.  He was divorced and also has a kid, who is 5 years old. When we first chatted on muzmatch we spoke for over 6 hours, he was surprised much we got on, he even thought that this was a prank!

I couldn't believe that I finally found the man I was looking for. The first time we met, was after Eid al futr, in the House of Cocoa, as Taymoor knew that I loved chocolate. We talked about ourselves for over six hours, I did not want to leave and neither did he.

After we met I told my family and friends, and he did too. He and his family visited us and we got married in only two months, I never imagined that I would find my soulmate and marry him that fast.

I always wanted to find a man to trust and love, after being a single mom for years, I found out that my dream man was hard to find, but alhamdullah I found him on your app.  

Alhamdullah, we are very happy together, my daughter lives with us and his son visits us on the weekends. You cannot imagine how much I am now recommending muzmatch to all my friends.

It didn't even take me long to find my husband. I used the app for almost one month or less.

I am so happy alhamdullah now that I married a real muslim I always wanted.  

4 days ago

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Close Call #muzmatchsuccess

My name is Sara and I just wanted to thank muzmatch and let you know that I finally got engaged on 24th December 2018 and found my Fiance - Ghazunfar on the App.  

We are really happy Alhamdulilah and just wanted to thank you for creating a platform for Muslims to find a suitable match for marriage!    

I believe it's a real blessing because initially we matched but we didn't talk as he hadn't read my messages and was not appearing online. After around 4 weeks, I unmatched however after some weeks I logged in and I came across his profile again. After some giving it some thought I decided to rematch and give it a try again.

The next day he replied to me and the is history.  Its been a almost a year since we matched on Muzmatch and we have set the Nikkah date which will be 1st March 2019 in Rawalpindi, Pakistan.  

Our families are very happy and we are looking forward to entering into the blessed union of marriage Insha'Allah. We just wanted to say keep up the good work, may Allah bless you and request that you keep us in prayers.  

One last thing to everyone using the  muzmatch App - please do not give up, there is someone out there for us all!  

4 days ago

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