So you’ve done it! You’ve finally created your Muzmatch profile, and you are on your way to securing the deal and getting married but there’s one glitch – you have no idea how to fill in an online profile and stand out from the crowd.
You try and think of something clever and witty but it’s an epic fail, or worse still you are sitting there laughing at your own jokes. In the end, you throw in some very obvious information like ‘My name is… I really like to find a person similar to me..’ and you’re done! The only thing you have going for you with this approach is hope, and some luck.
Yes, you are a brand! How? I hear you ask? Well, we recognise brands from their logos and image. That means you are your logo and the impression your profiles leaves is your image. So what does your profile say about you? I mean, what does it really say about you through your words and images… does it tell singles you’re charming, lovable and a great potential spouse or that you’re creepy, defensive and patronising. Does your profile dazzle or a does it disappoint?
Just like a brand you need to be recognised as a potential spouse, within a dense crowd of single muslims. How? By being totally and completely unique…by being you because there is only one you! Be your true self by talking about your unique talents, aspirations, and activities you enjoy. Singles want to know why they should marry you, not why you should marry them! Just don’t lie or exaggerate … it leaves you and your brand image in tatters.
Here are a few tips I’ve picked up that create a compelling profile and helped others to raise their game. Want to draw in potential spouses and give you the best shot on Muzmatch?
First impressions really do matter! I know, I know, firstly that’s stating the obvious and secondly, looks aren’t that important. It’s about a person’s character and personality and yes I agree, to some extent. Let’s look at it this way – when we meet someone new, we make a judgment about that person within 5 seconds based on their appearance, body language, and mannerisms. It’s the same with profile pictures. And now you know why your profile picture is so big in the muzmatch app! In my opinion, blurring out your picture means you lose out big time.
One great picture is all you need but before you add more, ask yourself the question: ‘do my pictures add value or create confusion?’
So your profile picture has got their attention. Now it’s time to blow them away with your vibrant and attention-grabbing bio just to match your personality!
There are hundreds if not thousands of bios. Reading them can get so boring; it puts singles to sleep Why? Because they all say the same thing over and over again! It’s no wonder they keep swiping! Here’s how to create a genuine and refreshing bio that not only keeps singles engaged but leaves them wanting to know more.
Take your time: think about what you want to write. Talk about what’s important in your life and why. So if you’re looking for a family orientated person who wants children, you could say:
‘I love spending time with my family, especially my nieces and nephews. I want them to grow up in a loving environment and I want to be someone that they turn to for help and support.’
This tells singles family life is important and implies you want to be a reliable, loving parent at some point. Great qualities in a spouse, right?
‘I’m a loving person and I want a family of my own one day’
which one is more engaging?
Your profile is a reflection of who you are, so shows your best self and make it genuine. It will really come across in the words and tone you use! I know dating as a Muslim can be stressful and frustrating, so just enjoy the process, make it fun and interesting because guess what, that alone makes you more attractive!
What tips would you give to other singles? What’s worked for you? What should singles avoid? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
This week’s guest blog is written by lifestyle coach and author Nasema Begum.
As The Dating Coach Nasema Begum helps singles to powerfully navigate the halal dating scene with easy, so they can to meet and marry their soulmate. Nasema has been trained by coaching giants in the Muslim and non Muslim world. She is also the co-author of the number one best-seller The Muslim Entrepreneur Mind. You can download her FREE ebook Unstoppable Confidence: 13 POWERFUL steps to Happiness and Life on Your Terms at nasemabegum.com